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Finding Out The Sex; Of A Baby
Topic Started: Jan 13 2006, 06:09 PM (229 Views)
tiltontrev
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Had the second scan today,and after both agreeing not to find out the sex what did we do.....Change our minds at the last minute and found out!!!

But a few people (family) dont want to know saying they`ll wait for a suprise!!!...Surely its a suprise whatever time you find out?...At least now we can decorate/prepare knowing what we`re expecting.Although it was always going to be Blue/White themed regardless of the sex!!! ;)
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Thats great trev, when we were asked if we wanted know we opted not to know but really it doesnt make any difference!
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For me it is like knowing what you've got for Christmas. no point unwrapping it.

When I had my daughter I wasn't given the option. I didn't want to know anyway.

At first I wanted a boy but when my daughter was born I was more than happy. I wasn't bothered either way by the end.

I was going to call her Emily all tehw ay through but when I saw her the name Alex came to mind and it suited her from the first second I saw her. No way is she an Emily at all.

Had any thoughts on names yet m8?

It is a little starnge looking at your picture knowing 'it' now has a sex and is a proper person not an 'it' any more.

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tiltontrev
Jan 13 2006, 06:09 PM
Had the second scan today,and after both agreeing not to find out the sex what did we do.....Change our minds at the last minute and found out!!!

But a few people (family) dont want to know saying they`ll wait for a suprise!!!...Surely its a suprise whatever time you find out?...At least now we can decorate/prepare knowing what we`re expecting.Although it was always going to be Blue/White themed regardless of the sex!!! ;)

Be warned though - a friend of a friend was told she was expecting a boy. She decorated the nursery in blue, bought clothes that were typically for a baby boy, as did all the family, gave the baby a boy's name and referred to that name throughout the rest of the pregnancy, and - yep you've guessed it - she had a girl. :o It's very rare, but it can happen which is why, for many years, they were reluctant to tell parents the sex of the baby.

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A friend at work was told she was expecting a boy but was cautious because she knew someone who was told she was expecting a boya nd had a girl. my m8 was ok though.
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Jan 14 2006, 12:01 AM
...which is why, for many years, they were reluctant to tell parents the sex of the baby.


I thought that was because of more sinister reasons, ie because of some people not wanting girl babies... That's what a friend of mine was told by the hospital when she asked to know the sex of her unborn baby. Scary
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so, trev - gonna share it with us or what??? :rolleyes:
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veraduckworth
Jan 14 2006, 11:35 AM
BluenoseMo
Jan 14 2006, 12:01 AM
...which is why, for many years, they were reluctant to tell parents the sex of the baby.


I thought that was because of more sinister reasons, ie because of some people not wanting girl babies... That's what a friend of mine was told by the hospital when she asked to know the sex of her unborn baby. Scary

Yes, I think that was another reason. Very scary and very sad. :(

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Jan 14 2006, 11:38 AM
veraduckworth
Jan 14 2006, 11:35 AM
BluenoseMo
Jan 14 2006, 12:01 AM
...which is why, for many years, they were reluctant to tell parents the sex of the baby.


I thought that was because of more sinister reasons, ie because of some people not wanting girl babies... That's what a friend of mine was told by the hospital when she asked to know the sex of her unborn baby. Scary

Yes, I think that was another reason. Very scary and very sad. :(

Mo
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Incredibly sad.

Anyway, c'mon Trevor, do tell!!!!?
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Jan 14 2006, 12:39 PM
BluenoseMo
Jan 14 2006, 11:38 AM
veraduckworth
Jan 14 2006, 11:35 AM
BluenoseMo
Jan 14 2006, 12:01 AM
...which is why, for many years, they were reluctant to tell parents the sex of the baby.


I thought that was because of more sinister reasons, ie because of some people not wanting girl babies... That's what a friend of mine was told by the hospital when she asked to know the sex of her unborn baby. Scary

Yes, I think that was another reason. Very scary and very sad. :(

Mo
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Incredibly sad.

Anyway, c'mon Trevor, do tell!!!!?

Unfortunately pride and sadly neccessity were what forced people into wanting Boys going back a hundred years or so

Pride - so that the son could conitnue the family name

Neccesity - Boys were more able to work - esp from an early age - so that more income could be brought to a poor families table

time to get down that pit or into the mill - kids today don't know how easy they have it
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on this theme i read somewhere quite recently that one or two countries on the "sub continent" still routinely kill baby girls at birth because they want boys for reasons stated above :o
these countries like to think they are important in the world scheme of things and yet routinely (in india alone, i think) over 100000 baby girls have been killed by parents in the last few years. if this was happening in the middle east, or was happening to adults it would be called genocide and bush and blair would invade them to stop it (nowt to do with oil!!). it is believed in OUR country indian and pakistani parents still routinely abort the foetuses of baby girls for bogus reasons and get away with it - its a cultural scandal and should be stopped immediately and people thrown in jail for life for murder. i have three girls, and they are more precious to me than life itself - i cant understand some folk :angry:

rant over ..zz..
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So, more importantly for me, congratulations, may the baby be born healthy, the mother get all the suport she needs, and the father be the a loving dad. All the best.
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Thanks for the nice comments all,i wasn`t really arsed what the sex was to be honest all i`ve ever said is as long as its healthy anything alse is irrelevent.I`d tell ya`ll but my mum reads this boards from time to time and she and me dad have decided they dont want to know till the birth.Which is fair enough,old fashioned and all that. **thumbup
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Bleeding grandparents, getting in the way already ehy Trev!!! LOL Bless 'em! lol


When is your little bundle of joy due? I can't wait to find out if we have the next Trevor Frances or the next tea lady.
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Lol,its due the last day in may i want it to be 2 days late though as it`d fall on my sis` birthday...And what better present could she ask for?...She`s just as excited as us,if not more!!!!

Oh and the way its lying with its hand on its head is exactly how i sleep apparently!!!haha cool.
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When I had my 12 weeks scan I was lying with my right foot crossed over my left. When she appeared on the screen my daughter was lying exactly the same way. It was bizaar!

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Hehe its weird isn`t it,kinda freaky seeing it on the screen and at this stage seeing all the bones and the heart etc is quite surreal but brilliant at the same time.Its really stubborn to (much like its mother!!!) as the nurse needed certain measurements so had to keep trying to move it around and it would just go back to sitting how it wanted too every time haha i was holding back the laughter as the nurse looked increasing p*ssed off,but had a giggle about it once she`d got her measurements.
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My midwife sent me to the hospital onetime because I hadn't felt the compulsary 10 movements by 11am that day. While I was hooked up to a foetus monitor thing they gave me a button to press when I felt her move. About 15 minutes later the nurse came back and was concerned cause I had pressed the button about 4 times. She couldn't believe the baby was being so still.

Then she asked if I felt that. I said not. She was astonished. The baby has turned comepletely around, she felt it with her hand but I didn't feel a thing. Not a twitch. Stupporn kids? Sneeky bleeder more like!!! lol
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We managed to stop ourselves from asking or wanting to know

On the day i had decided that the child would be named (middle names) the first/closest Blues scorer to the Birth - Stern John scored and we drew with Blackburn on the day of HER birth 18-01-03. As it was a girl the idea had been voided!
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Jan 15 2006, 11:33 AM
We managed to stop ourselve from asking or wanting to know

On the day i had decided that the chilf would be named (middle names) the first/closest Blues scorer to the Birth - Stern John scored and we drew with Blackburn on the day of HER birth 18-01-03. As it was a girl the idea had been voided!

:lol: :lol:
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Jan 15 2006, 11:33 AM
We managed to stop ourselve from asking or wanting to know

On the day i had decided that the chilf would be named (middle names) the first/closest Blues scorer to the Birth - Stern John scored and we drew with Blackburn on the day of HER birth 18-01-03. As it was a girl the idea had been voided!

:o You mean your wife/girlfriend didn't take to the idea of having a daughter called Stern. She would certaintly have been unique :D
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I have never had children myself but was a bitthing partner for my best friend a few years ago. She didnt want to know the sex of the child and the excitement she had on her face when she found out made it all worthwhile - it made me realise that i dont want to know when i have my kids.

Glad all is going well tilton, enjoy the sleep now while you can :lol:
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gender id for me is a complex issue, as the gender I was labeled as at birth was later in my life to cause me a great deal of "issues". As I was "intersexed", but not diagnosed until puberty, so hence the "birth" gender I was given was in conflict with my biological gender.... so do be aware that 1 in 2000 births can have an element of insexed issues. As a society we attach so much to gender, and gender roles and we all have to "conform" to one or the other, and from the the moment of birth we as parents nurture a child into a role that is stereo typical of societies expectations of an individual of that "gender".

Hence the pink v blue clothes and nursery from the the first moment of life. I understand that certain parents, or the mother or father, would like one or the other, for some reason, but I feel it should be left until the birth, as it was almost meant to be, and as long as the child, regardless of gender, is given the freedom to find him/herself than you will have been good parents. Good luck....
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My daughter is the most girly little girs I have ever met but she still loves playing with cars, trucks, Ninja Turtles, footballs, wearing her Blues kit, playing in the dirt, fighting with the boys at school the list is endless.

I have always encouraged her to do what she wants. 1 Christmas she asked for a Baby Annabel doll and the Ninja Turtles in their van. 1 extreme to the other but Santa brought both.

My m8 has a little boy the same age as my daughter, 6. When they were about 2 and a half we went Xmas shopping. I was buying tea sets and things. My m8 said she would love to buy her boy a kitchen and some utensils with food and stuff but her hubby would go berserk. He wouldn't allow their boy to play with them. I said he'd be expected to make cups of tea when he's old enough! lol

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