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| Tweet Topic Started: Jul 7 2011, 07:37 AM (557 Views) | |
| lordnewtown | Jul 7 2011, 06:29 PM Post #26 |
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Cheers mate but the parents ARE over there already. That was one of my points, her going alone would be sort of okay as she could leave my daughter with her folks, sisters etc and they live 15 mins drive from where this business venture is taking place. |
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| lordnewtown | Jul 7 2011, 06:33 PM Post #27 |
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Geoff Horsfield
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It's great that you two can have a good laugh at someone's expense, someone who's going through some genuinely tough times. Whatever happened to support eh? Especially between fellow football fans. I'm sitting here wondering if the two of you have ever gone through some serious sheit in your lives? Were people supportive? Or did they insult and mock like this? |
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| SimonBCFC | Jul 7 2011, 06:41 PM Post #28 |
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You want me to stroke your hair and tell you everything will be okay? Well tbh you've had enough of that in the last 293 threads you have made on a similar note, you need the cold hard truth mate, but as I say, you can’t handle the truth. Both Proccy and I make valid points. Take them on board, everyone else is just namby pambying you and the situation you are in. And yes, I did just say namby pambying B) |
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| blueblood | Jul 7 2011, 06:50 PM Post #29 |
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I still think you should go. Here's some sites that may be of interest to you. WONGA CASH 4 GOLD QUICK QUID |
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| ringo182 | Jul 7 2011, 07:10 PM Post #30 |
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Geoff Horsfield
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while i think that the posts by various people on this thread have been completely out of order, i do think you need to have a serious look at your relationship if it's anything like how you have made it out to be in this thread. what kind of married couple have seperate finances so one can afford to book a 3 week holiday to Jamaica while the other can't aford to take the time off work? as others have said, your not in a relationship, your simply stuck with someone because you happen to share a daughter. if you were in a proper relationship then she wouldn't have booked a holiday without running it past you and you would feel perfectly comfortable to say how yu feel to her rather then having to open yourself up to ridicule on a football message board. i think the holiday is the least of your worries. the first thing you need to do is sort out the actual relationship or current lack of one. as for the holiday, i wouldn't go. she is obviously taking you for a mug and just expects you to sit at home with your daughter while she goea galivanting around the island. let her family do something like she is always saying they would if they were there. |
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| Willie | Jul 7 2011, 07:20 PM Post #31 |
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If i were you i would do as Maulley suggests. As for the other less helpful comments. ignore them they only post it to get a reaction. |
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| Jim Jimmeney | Jul 7 2011, 08:14 PM Post #32 |
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If you still truly love your wife and want to spend the rest of your life with her then do the one that you honestly think is best for your marriage. Take the two weeks unpaid out of the equation if you can, times are hard at the moment but with two or three tight months you will be straight again and in a lifetime that is nothing. Clearly which ever one you opt for will be the wrong choice (curse of being a bloke) so go with your best intentions and then just nod and say yes dear a lot when you are being shouted at for making the wrong choice. ;) In the name of disclosure I should point out that I am 37 and have spent the majority of my life single so don’t consider myself an ideal choice for relationship advice. |
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| bluebat56 | Jul 7 2011, 08:27 PM Post #33 |
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Trevor Hockey
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follow your heart. |
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| Migster | Jul 7 2011, 08:32 PM Post #34 |
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Bob Latchford
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I can't help but think that if you stood on that table that does the hog roast in the George's beer garden and told this tale, you'd get a similar response. If you want the best advice, a BCFC internet forum isn't the best place to start. |
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| proccy_blues | Jul 7 2011, 08:59 PM Post #35 |
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Joe Bradford
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you need to peer down from your high-horse and look at what people (me too) are suggesting and stop being an emotional cripple - i put lmfao at the youtube link not at your plight, and nowhere in my post did i mock you. at the end of the day if you're too bound up in your own grief and misery to grasp she can't stand you, that's not my problem. if you post up asking for opinions and views you shouldn't be surprised that the answers are not all pink and fluffy. i think a spell of growing up would suit you well. as for your flippant comment that i have had no "sheite" i'm separated from my kids and every day i am kills me inside - but hey, who gives a sheite eh? |
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| wardendbluenose | Jul 7 2011, 08:59 PM Post #36 |
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Alex Govan
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Her idea, so she can foot the bill, jobs agooden, sit back and enjoy the sunshine and quality time with the young one. |
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| lordnewtown | Jul 7 2011, 09:27 PM Post #37 |
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Geoff Horsfield
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Despite my animosity towards you, I am genuinely sorry for the fact that you are separated from your kids. So although mine is on a much smaller scale (as in 3 weeks), why are you not being more empathetic? Surely you must understand the position I'm in, having to choose between my daughter and common sense, even if just for a few weeks. I'm sorry that you have been through some 'sheite', it's just that from the tone of your posts (Simon BCFC's too), it seemed like you were someone who has an easy life and any time someone posts a problem you just assume that it's all their fault coz you're too good to be in that situation. |
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| tim | Jul 7 2011, 09:32 PM Post #38 |
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Malcom Page
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You know the answers, you wrote them.
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| proccy_blues | Jul 7 2011, 10:05 PM Post #39 |
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Joe Bradford
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i don't want your sympathy, i'm fine and i'm getting on with life and i'm relatively happy - what i'm trying to say is we all have sheite to deal with, many people are worse off than you or me. certainly coming on here and whinging about maybe or maybe not going to jamaica for 3 weeks is hardly likely to get you too much sympathy - fact. you need to face the fact your relationship appears to be at least doomed and probably already broken, and your job is to either fix that or get out with the least impact on your child in my opinion. write a very long list of pro's and con's and decide from that - my money (if you're honest) is that you and your wife are no longer in love, it's just a convenience and the easy way to live |
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| SimonBCFC | Jul 7 2011, 10:33 PM Post #40 |
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woah woah woah, all I have said is what I genuinely feel and think about your predicament, which has been echoed by other people. Most people have actually agreed but have just gone about posting a bit 'nicer' than I did. The fact you have reacted badly tells me you don’t even realise your situation. Oh and we all have ‘shiete’, most of us just chose to speak to our mates as opposed to random people on an internet forum, if you dont want honest answer, dont ask. If you want someone to tell you everything is fine and you’re okay then speak to your Nan. Also on a side note, I use these forums for my own amusement not to tread on egg shells around someone who is upset so if I want to post something funny I will, so stop whining about it, this is just the internetz. |
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| keepthecityblue | Jul 7 2011, 10:48 PM Post #41 |
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I do think you should look at what Proccy and Simon have said a bit more closely. Maybe I am wrong - but I dont think they are just posting "for a reaction" - they have just posted how they honestly see it. If you ask someone for their honest opinion - then you have to be prepared for whatever they think. I generally find honesty works a lot better anyway - it might not be what you wanted to hear - but if you just want people to tell you what you want to hear then you obviously dont want their honest opinion. Also, I'm not sure I am alone in this thought, but just find it a bit odd that money can be tight for you and not your wife.... It seems strange for a married couple not to pool their money together and see what "we" can afford rather than just I. |
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| maulley54 | Jul 8 2011, 05:32 AM Post #42 |
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Mikael Forssell
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well i was being honest with my reply. and that was my opinion that i am entitled to. |
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